LightwithNunu

Ah, motherhood. A whirlwind of tiny socks, gummy smiles, and the constant hum of a baby monitor. While the love is boundless, the opportunities for true solitude can feel as rare as a unicorn sighting. Especially when you little one is a vibrant, curious one-year old, exploring the world (and your home!) with unwavering enthusiasm. But fear not, fellow mums! Even amidst the joyful chaos, those precious pockets of alone time exist. It is not about escaping for a spa day (though that sounds divine!), but about strategically carving out and savouring those mini-breaks at home.

How do you, as a mum to a one-year-old, actually enjoy time alone? You share the same space with your energetic explorer. It is about embracing the small victories, adjusting your expectations, and finding joy in the quiet moments.

The Golden Window: Naptime Nirvana

Let’s be honest, nap time is the holy grail. This is often the biggest chunk of uninterrupted time you will get. Resist the urge to promptly tackle the mountain of laundry or the overflowing sink (Okay, maybe do a little bit!) Instead, actively choose something that truly replenishes you:

The Hot Beverage Ritual

Brew yourself a proper cup of tea or coffee. Sit down. Sip it slowly. This sounds basic. Yet, the simple act of enjoying a hot drink without a tiny hand reaching for it can be incredibly grounding.

Dive into a Good Book (or Podcast)

Immerse yourself in a story, learn something new, or simply escape into someone else’s world. Even 15 minutes of reading can feel like a mini-vacation for your mind.

Tune into your Favourite Music

Put on some music that lifts your spirits. Sing along (Quietly!), have a little dance in the kitchen, or simply let the melodies wash over you.

Mindfulness Moments

Practice a short-guided meditation, focus on your breathing, or simply enjoy the silence (or the gentle hum of the dishwasher, whatever works!). A few minutes of quiet reflection can do wonders for your mental well-being.

Indulge in a Small Pampering Session

Paint your nails, put on a face mask, or simply apply your favourite moisturiser. These little acts of self-care feel luxurious when you have a moment of yourself.

Beyond Nap time: Snippets of Solitude 

Nap time is not the only opportunity. Get creative and find those smaller moments throughout the day:

Independent Play is your Friend

• Encourage independent play
  Set up a safe and engaging play area with toys your little one enjoys. While they are happily occupied, you can
  
• Do a quick task Mindfully
  Folding laundry? Focus on the task. Listen a chore into a slightly more enjoyable experience.
  
• Scroll Purposefully
  Instead of mindlessly scrolling through social media, engage with something specific. You read an article, watch a short video, or connect with a friend.
  
• Step Outside for Fresh Air
  Take a five-minute breather on the porch or in the garden. It can be incredibly refreshing.

Early Bird Gets the Worm (or the Peace)

If you are an early riser, use that time before your little one wakes up for quiet activities. You can journal, read, or simply enjoy the stillness of the morning.

Embrace the Bath Time Divide

Your little one is splashing happily in the bath. You can often sneak in a few moments to yourself. Read a magazine, listen to music, or simply enjoy the peaceful (and contained!) activity.

Utilise Technology Wisely:

A short, engaging program on TV or an interactive app can buy you a few precious minutes. Do not feel guilty about it- sometimes a little screen time is a sanity saver.

The Mindset Shift: It is Okay to Enjoy Your Own Company.

The key to truly enjoying alone time as a mum is to shift your mindset. It is not selfish to crave these moments. It is essential for your well-being.

• Lower Your Expectations
  Your “alone time” is not be hours long. But, even five minutes of mindful solitude can make a difference.
  
• Embrace Imperfection:
  The house is not spotless, and the laundry still be piled high. Let it go. This time is for you.
  
• Do not Feel Guilty:
  You are a better mum when you are rested and recharged. Taking time for yourself is an act of self-care that benefits your whole family.
  
• Be Alert in the Moment:
  Be fully engaged in the activity. Whether you are sipping tea or reading a book, focus completely on that. Let go of your to-do list and simply enjoy the feeling of having a moment to yourself.

Being a mum to a one-year-old is an incredibly demanding but rewarding journey. Finding those little pockets of peace and enjoying your own company is vital for navigating the ups and downs. It is about finding your own little sanctuaries within the home, even if they are just a few minutes long. So, go ahead, reclaim those precious moments and remember – you deserve it! What is your go-to moments of peace? Share your tips in the comments.